https://shaniiwilliams.ca/journal/ Notes for the woman becoming. Honest writing on anger, identity, people-pleasing and midlife reclamation, for women over 40. en noreply@shaniiwilliams.ca (Shanii Williams) noreply@shaniiwilliams.ca (Shanii Williams) https://shaniiwilliams.ca/journal/the-strong-one-is-tired/ https://shaniiwilliams.ca/journal/the-strong-one-is-tired/ Wed, 02 Sep 2026 09:00:00 +0000 Midlife Everyone in your life has a version of the same sentence about you. She copes. She is so capable. I don't know how she does it. They mean it as a compliment. It has also quietly become the only thing you are allowed to be. https://shaniiwilliams.ca/journal/when-did-you-stop-having-preferences/ https://shaniiwilliams.ca/journal/when-did-you-stop-having-preferences/ Tue, 01 Sep 2026 09:00:00 +0000 Identity Someone asks where you want to eat. There is a pause. Not a thoughtful one, an empty one. And then you hear yourself say "I don't mind, whatever you feel like." You have said it so many times you no longer hear it as an answer. https://shaniiwilliams.ca/journal/anger-is-also-grief/ https://shaniiwilliams.ca/journal/anger-is-also-grief/ Mon, 31 Aug 2026 09:00:00 +0000 Anger and truth You snapped at someone this week over something small. Afterwards you felt ashamed, because the reaction did not match the size of the thing. That gap is worth paying attention to. It usually means the anger was not about the thing at all.